Partnership takes dedication and work, there's no way around it.

Either we face what needs to arise, or we run from it, shut down, or ignore it all together, eventually making things much worse than if we just faced it to begin with. 

Intimate relationships trigger us in ways that no other relationship does, but the growth and healing that can come from facing these triggers is profound. Not only can it save your relationship, it can also lead you to healing your own traumas and create individual growth like nothing else.



Spending your life with someone special is a beautiful and special opportunity that not everyone gets the chance to experience. There can be many things that get in the way of you connecting on the level that you truly desire and why you desired to be in relationship to begin with. Past relationships, childhood and sexual trauma, money, careers, and that damn ego can all create conflict that drives you and your partner further and further apart.


Even a healthy partnership will have its challenges; merging two lives into one while remaining individuals can be tough at times. Intimate relationships will mirror your deepest wounds AND provide an opportunity for you to heal if you choose to face the wounding or trigger that is showing up for you. When you face your challenges in relationship as a team, you create an opportunity for more love and healing to take place which leads to deeper connection, trust, and play!


"We've had many highs and lows throughout our journey. What has kept us together is our commitment to growth, both in the relationship and as individuals. Learning different practices and tools to communicate our needs and listen to each others needs more effectively has been essential in connecting more deeply and staying together for over 13 years."



We will co-create a safe space for you to fully express your feelings, emotions, and needs to better understand one another with more compassion.


You will learn communication tools that allow for deeper intimacy through empathizing with your partners needs and communicating your own needs more effectively. These tools are the foundation to any long lasting relationship and I have seen these tools transform my own partnership and many others as well.


The intentional space we create together will help you to heal your past experiences and clear the trauma that has been blocking your connection so you're both able to enjoy the love that you deserve.

We meet on Zoom weekly for one month, followed by another month with calls every two weeks. This process allows for practice and integration to set you up for long term success. In person sessions are available for local clients in Victoria, BC.

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If you’re reading this and you need real leadership in your life, you’ve found it. Derek is an angel in the flesh and worth anyone’s time if you’re serious about up-levelling your relationships, business, and life as a whole.

Séamus Osiris, Life Guide

©2020 by Derek Lovell Coaching

Victoria, BC